Fight your fears

I decided to write on this topic because I will be writing about my personal experience and hence this is one of my favorite topics.

I am a very positive and confident person. There were things I was scared of in past and there are few things I am still scared of but then I fight with my own fears and win against them and when I do that, I feel like on the top of the world.

I have overcome my fears and have accomplished things which I once thought was impossible for me. My mantra is ‘Don’t stop until you are proud of yourself and are constantly challenging yourself.’

I never ran even 100m and I always thought I can’t ever run. I can walk for hours though. One day I decided that I want to start running and I started with running 2km/day. I was surprised that I can run even 2km and that seemed liked an achievement to me. I decided that day that I will run every day and each day I was making a new goal. I decided that I want to run non-stop for 200 days. I can proudly say that I didn’t stop until I accomplished what I had decided. It was a proud moment for me. Most days I ran more than 5km and few days I ran more than 10km as well. As I was running every day, I was preparing myself for my next goal — to run 10 miles in Antwerp marathon.

When life puts you in tough situations, don’t say “why me” say “try me”.

I participated in Antwerp 10 miles marathon and I finished it too. This was something I never thought will happen but running daily and setting a new goal every day helped me achieve this also. When you achieve something which you had never expected, happy tears flow. Mind you, running 10 miles was not an easy task as the route we were running on has many hills and tunnels but I didn’t give up. This proved that nothing is impossible, so keep challenging yourself.

Then came, Triathlon. It consisted of 500m swimming, 20km biking, and 5km run. It wasn’t important for me to win or to lose, but I had decided that I will finish it, come what may. Nonetheless, it was insanely difficult but I completed this as well. ? I totally felt that day that you should never give up without trying.

Let your dream be bigger than your fears.

A few years ago, I went to play badminton ? with my kids. I didn’t even know how to hold the badminton racket, let alone serve. So I decided that day that I will learn how to play badminton so that I can play with my kids. I started taking coaching and practicing every day, which made me a better player. Badminton has now become our family sport which all 4 of us play together and enjoy.

I had never played cricket ?. But then came Antwerp Ladies Club Cricket tournament. We worked hard and finished as runners-up. I never enjoyed going bowling ? but then I learned that too. It was mainly to participate in competitions but sports keep you in high spirits and that’s what it did to me. For someone who scored 70 points before, scoring an average close to 200 points in a bowling game is an achievement. Our team reached finals of the competition and we ended up as 1st runners-up

Fear is nothing more than a state of mind.

F.E.A.R. – has two meanings, forget everything and run or face everything and rise. The choice is yours.

I had too many fears which I have overcome. Few of them were fear of height, fear of animals and pets and fear of thrill rides.

Preet, my daughter is one of the reasons I fought with my fears. She is an adventurous girl, so when we go on holidays, she is the one who wants to sit in all thrill rides and do all adventure sports whereas rest of us were only spectators. I felt she is missing so much because of us as no one can accompany her. I thought this should change so I decided that I will do my first skydive when she will turn 16 years old, and we both did it in at Interlaken, Switzerland last year. With this, I came out of one of my biggest fear of heights. I just jumped without thinking anything that day from the plane at 15,000 feet above ground and when I landed I had tears in my eyes not because I was scared but just because I was very, very, VERY happy. Words can’t express those feelings. A big thank you to her for helping me overcome this fear. I did my second skydive in Gold Coast, Australia, again with her this year. I was more confident this time.

We both also did bungee jumping in Queenstown, New Zealand this year. Now neither is she is alone nor me. When I was on the bridge, the instructor told me that when he will count 1, 2 and 3, I just have to jump.. if I had started thinking I wouldn’t have jumped. Bungee jumping was scarier than I thought it would be but I just jumped without thinking anything. I had promised myself that I won’t back out and I will achieve my this goal too. It was not at all easy but it was totally worth it. So don’t give up without trying. Believe in yourself.

With skydive and bungee, I truly felt that Preet and I are there for each other in all our adventures.

Some of you may not believe but I was so scared of every animal and mostly of dogs. I used to change the lane if I see a dog passing next to me ?

But once again Preet’s love for pets made me strong. She wanted a dog in the house (which we still don’t have, thanks to my darling husband ?). So naturally, me being scared of dogs wouldn’t help her. So I decided once again, to overcome this fear too. I feel when you love someone truly you can fight strongly with your own fears.

Confront your fears and they won’t be your fears again.

I still have a long to-do list of goals to achieve and fears to overcome but honestly, I won’t ever give up till I strike everything out from that list. I will keep on trying till I succeed.

Let’s do this friends. Try taking up things which makes you weak and ace them. Start with small things and fight with it. Become your own strength. I am sure the feeling what you are going to get, will be incredible.

Fight your fears.
Challenge yourself in each way.